Are You a Trusting Person?

The Trust Factor

Over the last year, the stories people have shared with me has led me to two simple but powerful truths.  The first is that, despite incredible suffering, or perhaps at times because of that suffering, people have incredible but often untapped potential.  The second truth is that the most common and basic characteristic of those who are “held back” from reaching their potential is the inability or unwillingness to trust.

I want to be incredibly clear: There are good reasons to NOT trust someone, particularly if they hurt you or someone you love.  I completely understand that and have felt it myself.  But it’s meant to be temporary and only a piece, and not the whole, of who we are.  But for many, a sense of distrust is like a flood of emotions, and like any flood, damages good structures and impacts lives.  Distrust of one person seldom remains that way, but instead seeps into other areas and relationships in our lives.  We do not want to get hurt again, and so we put our guard up.  They, in turn, sense we distrust them, and  begin to put up walls to defend them.  Our energy is centered on having others prove to us why we should trust them, and each mistake seems to be the rule rather than the exception.

My research shows that those who struggle with trusting are least likely to feel safe.We cannot force anyone to trust us or even themselves, but we can choose our words to help improve that trust.  If you are the one who is largely distrusting of everyone, now is the time to ask yourself if you are ready to feel safe again.

I’m finalizing the edits on my book, and I’m very excited to share it with you in the near future!  The stories and interviews have literally changed my perception of how to help me and others reach our potential, no matter what struggles may beset it.

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