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Grow your Marriage by Leaps & Boundaries

In a marriage, you have to know where to draw the lines.

From financial concerns to physical relations to parenting decisions, there are a host of issues that can either divide spouses or bring them together.  That’s why marriage expert Jerry Cook has prepared this breakthrough approach to marital boundaries that will teach you how to set the kinds of rules that will bring you closer to each other than ever before.


  • How to use boundaries to strengthen your relationship
  • Everyday practices that will fortify your marriage against future problems
  • What you can do for your relationship, even when your spouse is unwilling to change

Encouraging and uplifting, this book is perfect for newly engaged sweethearts and longtime couples alike. It’s guaranteed to improve your relationships with your friends, your family, and especially your spouse!

Product Details
Title: Grow Your Marriage By Leaps and Boundaries
Author: Jerry L. Cook, PhD., CFLE
Format: Paperback
Page Count: 176
Dimensions: 6 x 9
ISBN: 9781462110698
Vendor: Cedar Fort, Inc.
Imprint: Plain Sight
Price: $12.99


“In my work with couples, boundaries are a big issue that often gets overlooked. Grow Your Marriage by Leaps and Boundaries not only helps couples develop healthier personal boundaries, but better couple boundaries as well. One of my favorite things about this book is the excellent sample dialogs, which can help couples see and hear what healthy communication about boundaries is all about. Questions are also provided to help couples have open and honest conversation about how to strengthen and protect their marriage. With the impact of social networking in today’s society, Grow Your Marriage by Leaps and Boundaries can help couples develop the healthy marital boundaries they need now more than ever!”
Laura M. Brotherson, marriage and family therapist, author of And They Were Not Ashamed–Strengthening Marriage through Sexual Fulfillment, host of “The Marital Intimacy Show”

“In this social media age, we are all learning about online boundaries … the hard way. Unfortunately, too many Facebooking spouses have discovered their mate’s unspoken online boundary by crossing it, offending them and creating an ‘it’s complicated’ situation in their relationship. Much of the time, it is unintentional. Thankfully, Grow Your Marriage by Leaps and Boundaries can help any couple at any relationship stage talk about, discover and create online and real-time boundaries to protect their marriage relationship.”
K. Jason and Kelli Krafsky, “The Social Media Couple”, internationally-renowned experts on how relationships are affected by technology and social media, co-authors of Facebook and Your Marriage, and

“Dr. Jerry Cook’s book is a wonderful tool and resource to help marriages that are off track, but more importantly, to strengthen marriages that are already solid and stable. As a marriage and family therapist, and as someone who teaches marriage at the university level, I feel this work is crucial for all couples to read. In today’s world, so many marriage boundaries have become blurred—especially when it comes to the use of social media in marriage. I feel it is crucial for couples to understand the principles found in Grow Your Marriage by Leaps and Boundaries. This book can strengthen any marriage.
Dr. Mark D. Ogletree, co-author of First Comes Marriage and Then Comes Marriage, Brigham Young University

“Boundaries are first learned in the home or family. If a child does not see the family demonstrating boundaries then that child will enter a culture of mixed messages, looking for happiness outside oneself and outside one’s family. Words we use and our behavior send powerful messages to youth and our children!”
Bill Roddy, author of Manhood from the Hood

“Dr. Cook has written important primer for today’s marriages. Couples often receive little to no instruction on developing healthy boundaries that will protect their relationship. Sample dialogues are woven throughout the book helping couples easily distinguish the difference between healthy and destructive communication.
Leslie Vernick, LCSW, licensed clinical social worker, relationship coach, national speaker and author of How to Act Right When Your Spouse Acts Wrong and The Emotionally Destructive Relationship reviews
“Every marriage is different and every couple has or perhaps, doesn’t have, their own boundaries. With chapters discussing physical boundaries, verbal and emotional boundaries, social relationships and networking, media, finances and employment, parenting and children, boundaries for each stage of marriage, roles and responsibilities, spiritual boundaries and expectation, this is a book for everyone. Read it all the way through, read just a chapter. Each chapter has questions as the end to think about and activities to do. I liked the questionnaire in the beginning that helped to determine where you and your spouse stand in regards to boundaries or conflict. An important key to any successful relationship is communication. Grow Your Marriage by Leaps and Boundaries is a great place to start.”—Holly,

—-“While I was reading this book I can’t tell you how many times I thought that I could have used this information 18 years ago! I’m a girl that believes in marriage and family. My husband and my children are my everything. I believe in loyalty and fidelity. It takes hard work to create understanding and develop a marriage that works. Communication is key to that and I think this book does an excellent job of providing helpful ideas and ways to communicate with your spouse so that you can find what works for you. I especially appreciated that the author didn’t push one idea or theory as the right cure for everyone. He repeatedly expresses that every marriage is different and people are different so we need to find what works for us. Everyone’s boundaries are going to be different. He just lays out some areas that are critical to communicate boundaries in and offers helps and ideas in how to accomplish this.” —Aimee,

A MUST have for all married couples
I just received my book last week and couldn’t put it down, I love it! I have been following Dr. Cook on Facebook and Twitter and love all his advice and I knew the book would me amazing. I am not disappointed! I am going to buy a few more copies and give them as bridal shower or wedding gifts. I wish I had this book 16 years ago when I got married. —Lisa

More reviews
“I found that some of the points in the book were spot on — there were tips that I knew we could benefit from, but there were also things that we were already doing. I really like that there are questions to think about in section, as well as activities to do to strengthen your marriage. My favorite section of this book was actually at the end … Dates Every Couple Can Do.” –Jessie,

Dr. Cook believes that a happy marriage must have three things: equal power between spouses, communication focused on the resolution of the conflict, not the conflict itself, and forgiveness. None of us is perfect, and we all make mistakes. He includes a questionnaire, assessing the boundaries in a marital relationship. Take the test to find the areas you need to improve. Boundaries help a couple draw the line between right and wrong and set expectations. Dr. Cook gives excellent examples of what a healthy discussion is like. Couples who read the book together will learn from his examples, and they will enhance their communication skills. He outlines how to change a conversation from attaching each other to sharing sensitive feelings on a difficult subject in a step-by-step manner. I recommend this book to newlyweds and those who have been married for years. His techniques are very well outlined. It’s also a fun read with many examples throughout the book. This is a good tune-up for all of us. Christy Monson, M.A., L.M.F.T., Retired, author of “Love, Hugs, and Hope”


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